I have always like the articles written by Geoff Tan in My Paper. He writes about family relationship and how to treat ur family members and others. I love this particular article on 14th May 2009.
Extracted from Geoff Tan's article on 14th May 2009.
Tile: Your reaction is key
Whatever the incidents that frustrate you in you life are, they are more likely to be influenced by how you react to them than the incidents themslves.
If you have ever wondered why such incidents happen to you more so than to anyone else, you may want to consider applying maagement guru Stpehen Covey's 90/10 Principle to rid yurself of these frustrations once and for all.
This principle is founded on the premise that 10 per cent of life is made up of what happens to you, and the remaining 90 per cent is decided by how you react those events.
Take for example, this scenerio: You are ahving breakfast with your family. Your son spills a cup of tea on your office shirt. You have no control over what ju happened. But what happens next will be determined by how you react. You may swear or shout at your son for being so careless.
He breaks down and you turn to your wife, accusing her of placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. She starts an argument while you stride to your room to change out of your shirt.
Your son is too distraught to finish breakfast. The delay causes him to miss his bus. Your wife leaves for work. You decide to take your son to school and end up getting fined for speeding. Your son, still angry at you, slams the car door without saying goodbye. You get to the office half-an-hour late and realised you had forgottn to take your laptop with you.
It was all in all, a very bad day.
Then, it gets progressivelu worse and you wish the work day would end soon so that you can go home. Then, it gets progressively worse and you wish the work day would end soon so that you can go home. When you do, you find both your wife and son refusing to talk to you.
You asked yourself: Why did I have such a bad day?
Was it the tea that caused it? Or was it your son?
Nope, you were the one responsible. You, and you allone! How you reacted in the seconds after the tea was spilt set off a chain of events which led to the day being a bad one.
If you had applied the 90/10 Principle, this could have happened instead:
Tea is spilt on you - the 10 per cent you cant control. But you can determine the outcome of remaining 90 per cent. Your son is about to cry. You put your arm around him and tell hime that it's okay.
You change our your shirt, grab your lap top and hea for the car after kissing your wife goodbye. Your son waves to you from the bus and you get to work on time.
You feel on top of the world and the day is off to a great start.
Isnt it strange that both scenerios started out the same way but ended on wastly different notes? My friends, don t let the 10 per cent that happens to you lead you to make wrong decisions for the remaining 90 per cent, which is very much within your control.
For example, if a car rudely cuts into your lane, a taxi driver sounds his horn at you, a colleague passes a negative remark, you maid stains your favourite shirt, or, worst of all, your boss tells your that your are fired, take a deep breath.
Now, think very, very carefully, because what you do in the next few seconds will dtermine whether you come out a "winner", or face a disadtrous outcome.
You decide!
Yes.. I can decide the outcome.. Ren Ding Shen Tian!! Yes.. every wk making a change.. Looking fwd to attending "Effective Emceeing" - Nacli course on coming sat.
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